Allow me to expound for a moment on my terminology. According to the Cambridge English Dictionary, deviant behavior is described as “a person or behaviour that is not usual and is generally considered to be unacceptable.” This of course begs the question: What is usual or acceptable? One could say that deviant behavior violates the social contract which, according to Rousseau, is only legitimate to the extent that it meets the general interest. But let’s say the general interest is both spoken and unspoken. My point is simple, public and private behavior should have equal consideration for general interest. Enough people engage in, ponder, seek out, or simply desire sexually adventurous behavior to say that it, in fact, deviates from nothing. So to call Ms. Portnoy a deviant is simply a term of endearment, a tongue-in-cheek wink-wink kind of way to show my acceptance. There is a ‘deviant’ in each and every one of us.

Suzanne was visiting from London to promote her book, The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker, a book that follows Suzanne’s sexual escapades prior to marriage and following her divorce. Admittedly, I read the book while riding the subway on my morning commutes to work. There were moments I had to put the book down due to excessive redness in my cheeks and sweating on the nape of my neck. For those of you wondering, that is a positive reaction.

We met up at Corner Bistro in the West Village and ordered ourselves each a glass of wine, her a Pinot Grigio and for myself a Chardonnay. It was a fast paced conversation that I wished I had a recorder for instead of my trusty pen and notepad. Her open and fearless manner might have struck some as shocking but I found it refreshing. It seems almost customary that in order to start a frank conversation about sex one party must feign shyness or embarrassment (”Oh my god, I can’t believe you just said that!” Which inevitably leads to something along the lines of, “I’ve tried that too!” Because the ’shy’ party, though no more innocent than the initiator, needs to know they won’t be judged or rejected in order to open up.) But speaking with Suzanne was not like this. Nor is her book.

Suzanne’s professional job is Publicist. She has kept a blog, in one form or another, since 2002. Now her blog is used not just to market her book but she also finds it an excellent place to write freely and flesh out stories. In fact, Suzanne points to the web as the nexus in her own self-discovery as well as an ideal venue for women who may feel sexually sheltered to explore possibilities. Her path started on some traditional dating sites to see what the world had to offer. She encourages the curious among us to approach online dating with a sense of fun, just as she has. Now that she has a better handle on her desires and needs she finds the swingers’ dating sites suit her best. One cannot say the she is not resourceful nor inefficient about fulfilling her desires, even before arriving in NYC she had dates set up via Craigslist and after appearing on Howard Stern she had many more, even a Sky Cap at JFK emailed her with his exact location in case she might have some time to kill before her flight back to London.

To say Suzanne is clever about satisfying her sexual appetite is an understatement. She is downright devious (wink wink) about finding the ways and means. When I asked her about having children and her feelings on how women tend to remain sexually dormant because of their kids she said that these women needed to stop thinking about sex during normal hours and places. She explained that there are so many pockets of time in a normal day that simply go to waste when one could in fact be bent over in perhaps a bathroom stall or a coat closet. This certainly has changed the way I look at my Outlook Daily Planner and the large bathroom at the Starbucks on 6th Ave.

Suzanne is an amazing person, bending and quite possibly contorting the sexual confines of her own life. She has an intensity about her that is infectious and like a firefly, enchanting. Reading her book is strongly recommended and may even allow you to expand your own personal sexual confines, at least redefine them.

* _{I originally posted this story at The Vibrator Blog.}

So, what’s been going on? Well, last week I had the pleasure of going on the air with Ilyana Lanai, the winner of the Sex Blog Awards. She did a great job and the boys seemed to really like her. Her blog is definitely a must-read. It’s not necessarily a sex blog in the sense that she doesn’t write erotica but more so commentary on life mixed with sexiness. It’s very real and frank, just the way I like it.

Take a listen to the audio from that show.

This morning I read an excerpt from Madeline in the Mirror, an amazing blog I love to read and think everyone should. Unfortunately I was not on my game and kept tripping on my own tongue. It quickly digressed into a jabbing session at Meme. I wish I hadn’t done so horribly because it was a complete injustice to Madeline poetic and masterful writing.

The excerpt I tried to read was hot…

My fingers reached for his right nipple and gave it a tweak. He growled and threw my legs up over my head, diving in with his tongue. He doesn’t give the best head in the world, but he is earnest. He is, I think, a little obsessed with making me squirt, and I need more than two minutes of stimulation before that pulling and milking becomes a fun thing to do.

I kept his face there, showing him how I liked my clit played with–how the flicker-fast, barely touching hits of myfingerhistongue make my eyes roll back and my hips push up.

Finally I let him put his fingers in me. Just two. Or maybe three.

“God, I love that sound.”

He was up to the third knuckles on his huge fingers and I was growling, opening.

“Rub my. . . my. . . my clit. . . with your. . . uh. . . tongue”

I meant to say “thumb.”

He plunged his face down excitedly.

“No, no, no, I meant your thumb. Like this.”

He got it. Hallelujah.

“Shit, baby.”

I spread my knees wider and grabbed my tits as my back arched. His hand, wet with me, slid up my thigh, over my hipbone and all the way to my mouth. I took the fingers, one by one, sucking them clean.

“You do that so well.”

I was on my side. He was on his knees. It only followed that I curl underneath him and suck on something else.

I took his cock between my lips. I nursed on it like a baby. I slid it to the back of my throat and licked the underside up to his balls. I gurgled and he sighed. I looked up at him, blissfully watching his cock slide into my mouth as I grinned.

I think that often people misinterpret what constitutes a good blow job. I think people worry that they don’t suck cock fast enough or deep enough or porny enough. I’ll fess to head-shaking, ass-fingering, spit-sucking face fucks and gagging on a certain cock while its owner holds my skull flush with his groin until I pound the mattress and blow snot. But here’s the thing: I like long, slow, deep, soft wet blowjobs that last for three days. Enjoy that reference if you got it.

That’s when I’m in control. I let him fuck my face, but I made him do it slowly. I put his cock down my throat. I made his breath shake and his dick throb and his balls pull up and his mouth gasp, “Unnh, baby, I’m gonna come.”

“You’re going to come on my face,” I hissed, my hand on his shaft, thumb milking his dickhead as he covered my cheeks and hair.

I wish I had been able to finish it. Maybe my tongue is just out of practice.

I owe you one Madeline.

Even more, I love to get it on at parties–going into a random bedroom for a blowjob, taking it from behind over the bathroom sink–I am very into parties. Which is why this blog caught my attention. It’s all about those wee morning hours after a huge house party bash when everyone is wasted and passed out except two horny individuals who can’t wait to go to the bathroom and get it on.

The Dirty Details is exactly what I like to read. It’s fun to read and even more fun to imagine. This morning I read the following excerpt for Playboy radio:

“BJ was curled up on the couch near me. I don’t remember how, maybe it was a mental message sent between us, but soon she was awake too. Soon my hands were sneaking tweaks on her hard nipples. I watched the sleeping faces of the others in the room to be sure they didn’t see. Didn’t see me slide my hand under her shirt, under her bra and rubbing her nipples. They didn’t see BJ unfasten her pants and my hands slide between her legs.

No one saw the fabric of her pants moving as if possessed as my fingers found her wet pussy. The moisture between her lips lubricated my warm fingers, they slid up to her clit and caressed. Everyone was still sleeping when she let out a sigh then bit her lip to contain it. My fingers were hidden between her lips as they stroked inside her slowly, rubbed deep within her then slid back to her clit. I covered her hand with part of my turtleneck as she stroked my erect manhood through my slacks. Her other hand stopped my hand from massaging her warm sex. No one saw her pull my hand from her panties and lick her juice from my fingers. I watched the room intently as she stood and motioned at me with her almond shaped eyes.”

Hel-lo.

Ilyana Lanai: ilyanalanai.com/blog

Chelsea Girl: prettydumbthings.typepad.com

Figleaf’s Real Adult Sex: realadultsex.com

Viviane’s Sex Carnival: viviane212.blogspot.com

Ilyana Lanai: ilyanalanai.com/blog

Congratulations to all the winners! If you’d like to see the vote percentage breakdown by category please go HERE.

I came across Anna’s blog Confessions From an Unmanageable Life via Jefferson’s blog One Life Takes Two, who never ceases to amaze me with his prowess and ability to fuck his way through the blogosphere one (or two) sex blogger at a time. Seems Jefferson has met his match in Anna and when she details their first meeting it is positively steamy. According to Anna’s profile, “This summer I left my boyfriend of two years. I’ve moved into my bachelorette pad and I’m trying to finish undergrad and sort my life out. So far it’s not going too well. Things have become unmanageable.” That may have been the case but after reading her blog it sounds to me like Stella’s got her groove back.

Excerpt as read on Playboy Radio…

Once I was deposited on the bed, Jefferson began kissing me and playing with my tits and the hot Irishman began eating my pussy. His tongue moved faster and faster over my clit, making a warm, wet mess between my legs.

Jefferson reached over and grabbed a condom off of the bedside table. He rolled it on and the hot Irishman stepped aside. My ass was at the edge of the bed and Jefferson stood at the end and entered me, my legs over his shoulders. His cock pounded into me.

I had been there for less than an hour and we were having sex already. It was delicious.

The hot Irishman kneeled on the bed next to me and I swallowed his cock while Jefferson fucked me. The hot Irishman was clean-shaven and I rubbed my hands over his balls and ass, enjoying the opportunity to become acquainted with a new body.

“I get you all weekend. Let’s give the hot Irishman a chance to fuck you now,” Jefferson said, pulling out of me.

The hot Irishman reached over and grabbed a condom of his own. He took over Jefferson’s position at the foot of the bed and fucked me while Jefferson kissed me. I was falling in love with this man’s mouth.

“Fuck me from behind,” I told the hot Irishman.

It’s amazing how easily a man will acquiesce to the demands of a pretty, young thing that he has his cock inside.

I turned over so that I was on all fours, and the hot Irishman remained in his position at the end of the bed. He grabbed my hips and he thrust and I pushed, my pussy and his cock, interlocking in a fast, frenzied fucking.

Jefferson and I did the best we could to kiss while I was bounced around on the hot Irishman.

I implore you to read the rest of this post.

Listen to the audio HERE

SmutVibes is an adult social networking website that offers adults the same social environment as other social networking sites, but in a more risque manner.

“Our mission is to connect adults through their like-minded friends,” said Delroy Frazer, founder of SmutVibes.com. “And let’s face it: adults need a social playground too, where they can upload their nude photos, describe their needs and not having to worry about it being taken off. We thought we could use our knowledge in the social networking game to help people to find that special opened-minded someone, group or couple, for dating or friendship that shares your interests, for free.”

SmutVibes.com users, who find one another via the “SmutVibes People Search” may then send each other private messages, browse through members’ photo gallery, rate each others’ photo, leave a comment or simply hang out in the SmutVibes Chat room, which is all free. “The growth of the site has been tremendous, it seems everyone has that naughty side to them and they want to be on a website that gives them the freedom to express their hedonistic side. SmutVibes.com fills those needs,” said Delroy with excitement.

The website, even though still beta testing, has been getting a lot of traffic, most of which comes through word of mouth. You can find it at www.smutvibes.com.

About SmutVibes.com
SmutVibes.com is an adult social networking and dating website that attracts swingers and others who are seeking like-minded people that may also be single. SmutVibes.com is owned and operated by Delroy Frazer, who started the website in fun, with the intention of meeting hot chicks! Luck is still not on his side. For more information or to start talking to other members on SmutVibes, visit www.smutvibes.com

I would also like to mention that the generous folks at SmutVibes have also donated a webcam as a prize for the Sexiest Sex Blogger category in our Sex Blog of the Year Awards.

It’s a fact, there are more sex blogs written by women than men. So when I come across one written by a man I’m always hopeful. It would seem that when men describe sex it can come off very technical/clinical and downright crude, yet women understand it’s the subtle details that draw you in. But when I read Dirty Boy’s Dirty Thoughts I knew I had found something rare, as he says, “I’m English, and I write erotica for women.” In a post he co-wrote with Dirty Little Girl (who we reviewed back in September), they shatter the myth that men don’t understand the art of the seduction. (His writing in italics)

Excerpt as read on Playboy Radio…

I move then, my body pressing closer to you. Slipping one thigh over yours, I straddle over you. Smiling, I start to undo the buttons on your shirt… one by one, taking the time to let my fingers touch your chest as I do. Ever so slowly your shirt parts and I push it back. Leaning over, I nip your chest, relishing the taste of your skin against my lips. Your arousal becomes evident as I feel your growing harder between my thighs and I smile again at the thought of your hard erect cock… my cock, to do with as I please…

I gasp deliciously, smiling back at you, my cock becoming very erect, feeling you pressing against me as you straddle me, feeling the warmth of your heat through my pants. I slide my own hands to your blouse, slipping my fingers up inside, warmth rushing through me as I encounter bare skin, my hands drifting up to your breasts, sliding over them through the soft lace of your bra, gasping again as I feel your lips and teeth nipping at my chest. I could so easily take you, push you back and fuck you, but it’s not what I need right now - I need to be taken, to surrender to your lust, your cravings. I need to be your whore…

I hear your gasp and nip your chest again. Your obvious pleasure arousing me. Slowly moving my hands down your arms, I pull your fingers from inside my blouse. Weaving my fingers in yours, I push your hands over your head, pinning them down to the lush carpet beneath us as I rock my hips against you. Your cock responds as does your mouth. Greedily kissing, I hold your hands firmly in my grasp. I feel you moan softly against my lips as you feel me moving against you. Your fingers clench around mine, pushing against me ever so slightly, struggling ever so slightly…

mmmm…read the rest of the post.

Listen to the audio HERE.

Come see us speak dirty in person! Meme, Heather and Brandy will be performing at the weekly SMUT show at the Galapagos Art Space. Heather and Brandy are seasoned performers, and Meme, well, she’s done many an Oscar worthy performance in the privacy of her bathroom. This should be a blast.

For more information visit the Galapagos Art Space website.

Welcome all! The voting has begun. The following blogs are up for awards:

Best Sex Blog

*_{Winner to appear with Meme on Playboy Radio and receive a copy of Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new book “Caught Looking: Erotic Tales of Voyeurs and Exhbitionists.“}

• Sex and the Ivy: sexandtheivy.com
• Hot Action: hotaction.ca
• Lazy Geisha: lazygeisha.com
• One Life Takes Two: onelifetaketwo.blogspot.com
• Ilyana Lanai: ilyanalanai.com/blog

Best Female Sex Blog

• Chelsea Girl: prettydumbthings.blogspot.com
• Ilyana Lanai: ilyanalanai.com/blog
• Sex and the Ivy: sexandtheivy.com
• Eros, Logos: eros-logos.blogspot.com
• Lazy Geisha: lazygeisha.com

Best Male Sex Blog

*_{Winner to receive a copy of “The Penis Book“}

• Figleaf’s Real Adult Sex: realadultsex.com
• One Life Takes Two: onelifetaketwo.blogspot.com
• Hot Action: hotaction.ca
• Semi-Celibate Erotica: semicelibateerotica.blogspot.com
• Grace’s Plaything: gracesplaything.wordpress.com

Best Couple/Group Sex Blog

*_{Winner to receive a 2 DVD set of The L Word, Season 4 (Catch the premiere on Showtime Jan. 7, 2007 at 10pm) [courtesy of Showtime]}

• AlexSuze: alexsuze.com
• Dirty Couple in VA: drtycplinva.blogspot.com
• Desire X: desire-x.blogspot.com
• Biker’s Balls and Teacher’s Tits: bikersballsandteacherstits.blogspot.com
• Viviane’s Sex Carnival: viviane212.blogspot.com

Sexiest Sex Blogger

*_{Winner to receive a Creative Webcam - Skype Edition [courtesy of SmutVibes] and a copy of “The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities”}

• Ilyana Lanai: ilyanalanai.com/blog
• Nina: lazygeisha.com & picture
• Elle: sexandtheivy.com & picture
• Violet Blue: tinynibbles.com
• Philip: hotaction.ca

I encourage you to visit all the sites up for consideration. Click the image below to vote…

Thank you to everyone who participated in the nominations. Check back often as new prizes are announced. Final winners will be announced February 1st. If you are one of the lucky nominees promote it on your site, click HERE for banners. If you have been nominated in the “Sexiest Sex Blogger” category and you want me to add a link to your picture, please send me the URL location. Good Luck!